You Win Some – You Lose Some

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“Seriously Chad?  You’re going to throw a cliche’?    This article is already Lame!”

Whoa pardner, just hold your horses for a second.


I agree  -cliches are so cliche they are extremely lame and have lost virtually all importance in my life.  I’ve heard that “the reason cliches are cliches is because they are sooo true” and I just have to kind of cringe and doubt.  I just don’t buy it. They fit in some appropriate places but in my life they are more “old man fillers” for funny stories than life ethos.


I’ve been brewing on this, “You win some – you lose some” idea because recently I had a friend throw it out to me and I just kind of shrugged it off as dumb.  Until It grew and grew on me and changed my outlook profoundly.


I now think that cliches become truisms and maxims because when applied in a different perspective than you were expecting –  they blow your mind! They aren’t some little nod your head in agreement type deal but an – “ahhhhh, I just won a set… in life.” experience.


So let me give you a little background and a story that would help set this scene for hopefully you may use this information at another time.  Today’s article is actually not about cliches at all, but a simple life winning moment I hope you can use for your betterment.


Years ago when we were looking for a pediatrician we had to search a few different clinics to find a doc that would satisfy  what we were looking for as far as vaccinations. You see, we wanted to spread out our vaccinations over the course of time a little to hopefully have a smaller impact on our growing one’s immune system.  No big deal, we weren’t looking to not vaccinate – we were just looking to spread out our timetable a bit.


Many of the doctors wouldn’t or were not open for any changes to their standard of practice – Many of them just thought we were far out hippie/granola chiropractors that scoffed at conventional medicine and were endangering our children and basically ran us out  – again no big deal, they’re still great doctors it’s just wasn’t what we were looking for.

We had to find the right fit for US.


So of course we found the doctor that we liked and have used him ever since.  We have been with him now for nearly 10 years. He has always served us well and we have been happy with him.   Lately however, he seems to have been getting over analytical and to apt to jump the gun.


Now that can’t be an easy job in the decision-making with little kids that can’t really speak that much and help you on your diagnosis –  It’s difficult, so I understand. But I don’t want to discuss with the pediatrician that my son may have to go to the hospital for a few nights when he has a basic cold.  It just seems that some of our minor concerns have become major issues with him the last few visits. He’s too nervous, too cautious. So my wife and I were discussing what we were looking for in a new pediatrician and how we would go about in essence  -firing him.


At the the playground after school one day, I was talking to one of my friends about her  decision-making process and I asked her, “How are things with you guys and your pediatricians through the military base?  We have an issue that we are having with ours and are looking around -our guy is just not working. You guys have moved around a lot, what works for you and what have you found?”


She stated immediately, I mean, zero pause…“Like everything I guess, you win some – you lose some.”   She continued, “I’m not sure you will ever find someone that does everything exactly like you like so we take what our guy says when applicable and do it our way or look for a second opinion when it doesn’t seem to fit us.”


Yeah Whatever….


Fast forward 20 minutes…”Hey Nikki (wife) – I think we’re fine with our pediatrician. He seems to really do a good job when we need him too and he’s always been there and been able to get us in when we need to he just sometimes gets a little bit over concerned.   at least we have someone that cares and can offer us his best opinion based on the circumstances, at the end of the day it’s up to us to decide what’s best for our kid though.”


Yeah, you win some – you lose some.   


The simple cliche just fit.  So perfectly. Like my quad stretch button flys with 100 washes in them.     The entire process of sorting through the heaps, the waiting rooms, the interviews during our kids coughing fits, the insurance BS, the inevitable small issues we would chalk up as a fail later – all of it – gone – by a simple statement from a friend with more experience and/or better insight than myself.     


It’s not going to be perfect – it’s going to be good – the law of 7’s (see link) and all is well in the land of Chad..


Talitha, thanks for that – you probably don’t even remember saying it but it had an impact and made a HUGE difference in my life and a colossal difference in my PITA quotient.    (Pain in the ASS)


I’ve since Used this quote while at the grocery store, while discussing what dinner we were going to eat, when discussing what kids sporting event we were going to set up for and at what time, and countless other appropriate minor league operations in my life.   Each of which has just de-stressed and de-sensitized my world.


The Comment section is right below guys, please take a moment to add to my accelerated learning curve and leave us all your best cliche’ and unique application.   Together we all learn, take a deep breath and relax. ahhh.



  1. I’ve had a tough time coming up with a cliche. The only thing that keeps coming to my head is…sometimes you’ve just gotta let it go….then I will sing the frozen song (NOT out loud) let it go, let it go. I tend to obsess over things I think aren’t right or social injustice in this world….or some stupid inconsequential thing that won’t matter 3 weeks from now. That’s it, that’s all I’ve got.
    I’m enjoying your blogs friend. Keep up the good work.

    1. So good. If you are ok with cursing and bad language check out Mark Manson’s podcast on Mark The subtle art of not giving a f***. You have to scroll to 2015 but it is my go to for that stuff . Well that and the frozen song of course!

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